Tiffany is a mom and fellow educator that I’m fortunate enough to have connected with via social media. She’s eloquent in speech, and had the biggest heart, you can tell through her answers below. Sometimes motherhood catches us by surprise, in her case it was a blessing in disguise because becoming a mom inspired great change in her. Thank you Tiffany for being so generous with the wisdom you share in your answers. We can all learn from you, and I’m grateful we’ve crossed paths.Let’s Raise This Mother!
Tell me about yourself
My name is Tiffany and I am a wife and mother of four, including my bonus son and baby girl due in June.
I have been working with children for almost a decade in different capacities.
I found out I would become a mom at the age of 19 and had her a few months after turning 20. Unfortunately, because of the way things were between her father and I I knew that I would be a single mom. I was so young at that time barely out of high school and had so much to learn about life. As I look back on when I first became a mother my daughter helped me, she changed my life and got me to straighten myself out as I no longer put me first, but her.
Have you always wanted children?
I did always want children. When I was younger I would say I wanted three. However, after having my daughter and with all that I went through she would be my only child and I had grown content with that. About 8 years later, I met a man who became my friend who eventually became my husband and father of my two other children. It’s funny how God works sometimes. The moment I had finally come content with what could be called my prolonged season of singleness and stopped looking and wondering when someone great would come along then he shows up.
How was the infancy stage for you?
My youngest will be a year old on February 1st and as it was with my oldest it has been a joy loving him, learning him and watching him grow. He is so active, curious and loving and always gives the best hugs. He is at the stage where he wants to do everything himself and if he sees you doing something he wants to try it too.
I call him my warrior because while I was pregnant I was in and out of the hospital and almost died due to a kidney infection and had gone septic.
The whole time I was fighting he was fighting too and thankfully he didn’t have any problems the entire time I had gone through everything. I still see that now, he truly is a fighter.
What’s your funniest memory?
My funniest memory with my youngest was when I was doing the laundry and began folding up the clothes. Almost everything I folded he touched, but there was one particular item that caught his eye. He began taking that item and persisted to get it over his head and it just wouldn’t work. He didn’t cry or fuss when he couldn’t get on but took it off and figured out if he could get it on another way.
The item by the way was my daughter’s training bra! Lol
What’s something that you wish people j ew about your son?
I wished people knew how full of life he is.
He is a lot like my husband so his actions and mannerisms automatically remind our son of him. When we are out he is very quiet, still and observant. I have often heard he is serious and a “good baby” because of this. After hearing that I let people know how he is at home and they don’t believe it. My husband often times gets labeled as looking serious all the time, but if you really got to know him you would know that’s not really him at all and that he has such a personality and it’s the same way with our son. He talks a lot, he’s smart. is very active, enjoys music and has a lot of love to give.
What’s something that you wish people knew about you?
I wish people knew that I struggle too.
Typically, when people see me they assume things or what I have and haven’t gone through. This is why lately especially as a blogger I have been more transparent with who I am and the challenges that I have. A lot of people are quick to post the good moments, but not the bad. I get it though, how many posts on social media are flooded with the latter than the former. I wanted to be able to share all of me not some of me hoping that someone will know that they are not alone.
What’s the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? How are you coping?
The biggest sacrifice of motherhood for me has been sometimes giving me up or what I want to do because sometimes it isn’t the moment or season to do what I want, but more so what needs to be done.
I cope well with it as for the most part I try to look on the bright side of everything. Instead of focusing on what I can’t do I focus on what I can and make the best of it.
What are three things you enjoy most about motherhood?
The three things that I love most about being a mom is that it is an adventure, I have the opportunity to impact a generation that will in turn impact another, and that not only do I get to teach but I am also a student. There are a lot of things in life that can become mundane, but motherhood is not one of them! Lol there is never a dull moment and something is always happening to keep you on your toes. Moments of downtime will come where you are able to focus on you or where for a moment all is still in the house for 1.5 seconds and then things get started back up again, but it’s okay we are built for this. What I instill in my children will prayerfully stay with them long after I gone and because of that they will be able to teach their children.
As much as I teach my children, I have also learned so much from them as well that has helped me not only become a better Mother, but also a better person.
They say it takes a village to raise them, name your tribe.
My tribe consists of my immediate family as well as grandparents, uncles, cousins, aunts and very close friends.
I wish they truly knew how much I not only appreciate what they do, but who they are because they can choose not to, but instead they choose to.
What’s your favorite book and why?
My favorite book is called “A Piece of Cake” by Cupcake Brown.
It is a memoir that I came across as a teenager and I have read it several times. She shares her story starting from a young girl about her journey to foster care, being in it and then getting out of it while overcoming many obstacles along the way. I highly recommend it!
What lessons and values do you hope to instill in your children?
I hope to instill a lot of lessons and values in my children.
A few that really stick out to me is to know God for themselves and have a relationship with Him. Also to have a good work ethic. persistent and consistent. Another thing is to treat others how you want to be treated, and to be kind. I can go on and on but off the top of my head these came to mind.
What’s the best advice you’ve received about motherhood?
The best advice I received about motherhood was not to talk about being a mom, but actively being one.
What advice do you have for new mamas?
The best advice that I have for a new mom is to give yourself grace to learn, make mistakes and grow from them.
Another advice that I have is not to compare. It is good to be inspired by others, but what works for another mom may not always work for you and that’s okay. Take what you need and leave what you don’t and adjust as needed for you in your journey of being a mom to your child/ren.
May we follow you on social media?
Yes, you can follow me on Social media!