Real-mom Interviews : Meet Shara

Shara is someone that I’ve known for a very long time. She is tall, has a big infectious smile and the kind of sense of humor that makes your stomach cramp from laughing so hard. Two kids, a full-time career is already impressive, but she adds her own business to the mix!

Tell me about yourself

Hi! I’m Shara. I am 28 years¬†old and i was born and raised here in Hamilton Ontario. My son is almost ten years old i had him when i was 19 and i just recently had my daughter this year and she is currently 17 weeks (4 months) old i’ll be 29 in November ūüôā My field of work is an Early Childhood Educator but I’m currently working for Hamilton Health Sciences in Nutrition. I love to keep busy, love new challenges and exploring our beautiful¬†province of Ontario. I’m a single mom of two children and being a mother is such a fantastic reward but like as anything else, we also have our challenges with motherhood/co-parenting too.

My hobbies include Cooking and cleaning! I love being able to get in my comfort zone by providing nutritious meals for my little family. I also run a small cleaning service called Queen Clean Cleaning Services. My planner is pretty booked tight! 

Did you always want kids? If not, when did that change?

Growing up i didn’t see myself having children. When i reached high school i was pretty certain i did not want children at all! I failed parenting. I still have my transcripts and i think i failed with a 33% haha! When i took home the doll, i’m pretty sure it died on me.¬†Yeah. . . kids were not my thing at that time in my life lol.¬†

Those feeling started to change when my oldest brother and my sister in law were expecting my twin nephews. Oh was i ever so excited. When my nephews were born i just fell completely in love. The first few months i tried to help out the new parents by going over assisting¬†with feeds whatever i could try do to cuddle aunty’s babies. She returned back to work

And the following summer, I found out that I was expecting my son. Which was a total surprise. His father and i were not trying for children but I assume God had other plans! 

It took me a few weeks to actually grasp that i was going to become a mother at 18. I have just finished high school and was half-way through my Personal Support Worker Course. I worked Full-Time at a local Tim Hortons after College, and was living on my own from when i was 15. But taking care of twin 1 year old boys and adapting to their schedule I felt I had a great head start already.

 I already had a lot of responsibility from a young age. I was still working on myself, growing and expanding and now I have to step on the gas before my newest addition came along. I gave myself the remaining time of pregnancy to prepare for motherhood.

Share your birth story

When I gave birth to my son, it definitely was something to remember! I really wanted to get together with my girlfriends and go out for some lunch the day that my water broke.I got up that day got dressed did my hair my make up i was feeling super cute! haha.
My water ends up breaking downtown hamilton and I really just thought i had an accident. I was also really hungry (Guilty). But just to be sure i made my way to the hospital anyway.
Four Five hours with the epidural injected 4 times my son was born. I remember telling the nurses how big his feet were & how much he looked like my father. Total Euphoria!! The Pain was over.
Us woman do really rock!

Now for my daughter! She is a whole another story. I labored with her all day at work. I think i fed 100 patients that day. Was i ever sore. I was also in between a move transition from my apartment to a bigger home for the kids and myself. Driving a U haul Pregnant was great. . .NOT!!

I had my contraction timer in my scrub pocket and boy oh boy they were coming in strong. I was able to make it home after my 8hr shift lol and as soon as i got home my water broke. From the east end of Hamilton¬†to the west end where the hospital was, 1 hospital to a next, she was born in 45 minutes NATURAL! I could of been one of those moms who had there baby in a back of a car!!!¬†Trying to let the police let us through a ride program was quite comical now that the experience¬†is over!¬†¬†¬†Once again total Euphoria.¬†I don’t even have words to describe a natural childbirth. From start to end. It was truly¬†amazing what our bodies can do.¬†

Funniest Memory?

When me and my son got home from the hospital, it was a big adjustment for the both of us. It has just been me and him for 10 years. I think we have both adjusted well with our newest addition. I have a few funny moments I prefer to not share haha but overall. We are still building funny memories. As I watch my almost ten year-old laugh, giggle and play with his baby sister, as my daughter sucks her bottom lip and now figured out how to spit and his reactions. Everyday we are constantly building funny memories with each other it’s so hard to just pinpoint 1¬† ūüôā

What’s something that you wish people knew about your son?

My son is so sensitive. I have 5 sisters and 1 brother. I have always been around little girls. He is just my little mommas boy. My daughter is full of smiles, never sleeps but it’s okay cause she just so darn cute!

What’s something you wish people knew about you? 

With having such a busy life, maintaining work school cleaning homes extra curricular activities and trying to maintain a social life, I feel like I can never take my supermom cape off. Anxiety and panic attacks have been a huge issue affecting my work, my daily duties. trying to find a healthy balance and making sure I give myself enough self care has always been a struggle. I don’t let it get the best of me, I continue to work hard, push through challenges and accomplish short term and long term goals that I continue to set for myself and my children.

What was the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? And how are you coping

There have been many things i have sacrificed, i wish there was just one, but when you have a child or children. you don’t look at those things as sacrifices. I look at them as positioning myself to give my children a better future. The extra long days, the balancing of working two jobs, trying to get a babysitter but then end of falling asleep cause your really too tired haha, not booking that girl trip getaway with your friends.

I often have that mom guilt, and I have to remember that is it okay to give myself a little me time too. To cope i get the kids together and hit the trails! We love to hike, we love to fish and indoor outdoor activities. We enjoy what life has to offer and there is no better coping strategy than that!

What do you love most about being a mom? Name 3 things.

Setting the Bar; Being there Role Model
Being a Provider
Being called Mom!!

Who does your tribe consist of?

I have a selected few that have assisted me. My oldest sister has always been by my side as well, and for thank I just want to tell them for the 50th time how much I thank them.

What lessons and values do you hope to instill in your child? 

That education is key in this life
Always have great grades and maintain good attendance it will go far
Always be respectful to others, especially your elders
Find something you love and pursue it! Doing something you love will never feel like work!
Save! Save your money! You will thank me later haha!!

What advice do you have for new moms?

Every parent ‘parents’ differently. What may work for you may not work for others, so instead living up to an expectation of how parenting is “suppose to go“, just be the best parent you can be!¬†

Can we follow you on social media?

Yes, Facebook:  Shara Sharaa

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