Real-mom Interviews: Meet Paden

This beautiful mama has got her hands overflowing with busy Identical twin girls. I’m thankful for Paden because when I was a nervous pregnant lady with my first child, she was a relaxed, well-versed mama with constant words of encouragement that helped me calm down and take a breath. Thank you Paden for all that you do for your girls, and the inspiration you’ve been for me as a mother.

Introduce yourself

My name is Paden. I am 26 years old. I am a mother to 4 year old twin girls.

Have you always wanted kids?

My pregnancy at 21 was a surprise. I had always wanted children but being unplanned I wrestled with how to handle it initially. I went for my 8 week ultrasound and adjusted to the idea that I was, in fact going being a mother of an actual human. 

When did you find out you were having twins?

At 14 weeks I was supposed to hear the heartbeat with a Doppler. The Doctor could not find a heartbeat so I was scheduled for an emergency ultrasound. His bedside manners were non-existent and I was a nervous wreck for the next 24 hours. At the ultrasound the tech informed me there was definitely a heart beat. I cracked a joke of relief,

“There is only one in there right?” The tech responded with a sympathetic facial expression, and told me there was two. I didn’t believe it until I saw them. 

Paden

Share your birth story

I wish I had a wonderful birth story to tell but the truth is the birth of my twins did not go how I wanted it to.

I was induced at 36 weeks. I wanted a natural stress free birth but I ended up with an emergency Cesarean after Evvys heart rate started to decline. I had to choose between having my mom and my partner in the delivery room with me while in a very groggy drugged state. I didn’t get to hold them or care for them because I was so out of it. Within 10 hours of the girls arrival my mother was hurried off to another hospital to be treated for pneumonia and my partner was sent home with the flu. I was put in a double room with another mother who had a very large and loud Italian family. I was super stressed about the amount of strangers coming in and out of the room which contained my fresh 4lb baby humans. I will never forget how my hospital room felt like a conference due to all of the different conversations happening. I did however, end up with two healthy, wonderful, tiny humans despite all of my stress. 

Funniest memory?

Between occasional curse words flying out of a tiny mouth, all of the mispronunciations, extreme poop catastrophes and a 1 pound bag of icing sugar explosion.. I couldn’t possibly pick a funniest memory. The entirety of these girls sweet short lives has been one big comedic blur. I have realized that I have a great sense of humour. 

What’s something that you wish people knew about your daughters?

Something I wish people knew about them is the fact that they’re totally different despite the common belief that twins are the same. They are two very different little humans with different strengths and weaknesses that share one special bond. Aislyn is kind and considerate, she is always concerned with how everyone’s feeling and how much they are loved. Evvy is goofy and inquisitive she will never miss an opportunity to learn or make you laugh. For the record, usually they prefer to dress the same.

What’s something that you wish people knew about you?

There is nothing I wish people knew about me.

Paden

What’s the biggest sacrifice of motherhood for you?

The biggest sacrifice of motherhood to me has been my youth. Going from zero to two children at a younger age, I had to face the fact that I was not able to have the same experiences that my friends were having. I came to terms with this by realizing that my life has been enriched in a different way. It is still sort of strange to think that 4 years ago I was a different person who could spontaneously pack up and go do whatever I wanted, wherever.. whenever. In one single moment this changed tremendously! I now have to constantly consider how it would affect two other people forever! 

What do you love most about motherhood?

I love the friendship I have gained from these girls and the friendship they will have to offer me in the future. I love how deeply motherhood has made me seek and appreciate my own mother. My girls force me to learn and lead by example and to consistently be the best version of myself. Most of all I feel so grateful to know the feeling of true and unconditional love. 

They say it takes a village to raise a child, who does your tribe consist of?

My tribe consists of a few very strong women in my family. I keep a small circle and believe in quality/quantity. I don’t know what I would be doing without the friendship of the women in my family. I do wish they knew how deeply I value watching them love and teach my children. It sets my soul on fire. 

What values do you hope to instill in your child?

I am raising these women of tomorrow to be everything this world is lacking. It is important to me that I justify empathy and kindness without self-sacrifice and integrity always

Can we follow you on Social Media?

You are welcome to follow me on Instagram @xopaden I post cute pictures of twins and pets, poetry and personal growth inspiration. My advice to any new mother is to accept you are capable of doing and being everything you thought you were not. Don’t fight it. There is no more wonderful journey. 

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