Natalia and I sat beside each other by chance and the connection was instant. Her energy, and vibe is bright and beautiful and she has a presence about her that I couldn’t help but be drawn to! We’ve been friends for years and seeing her grow in her business has been a joy to behold. She has 4 kids, is still madly in love with her handsome husband and embodies a Goddess! Cheers beautiful, to raising the future and attracting abundance.Let’s Raise This Mother
Tell me about yourself
I am born and raised in Toronto, Canada. My parents are from South America. I am a mother of 4, (2 girls and 2 boys) ages: 19,15,12 and 8 years old. I’ve been with my high school sweetheart for 22 years, and I am the founder of Sacred Breakthroughs (for over 15 years).
I became a mom at 21 years old. I just knew I was ready to have kids.
Did you always want kids? If not, when did that change?
Growing up as a teen I thought I would never have kids!
I thought I was going to travel the world and that kids would be too much work. What changed was when I met my current husband, I was 17 years old. It was like LOVE at first sight. We decided that we should start a family because we both loved each other and knew we had enough love to share with our children. People are surprised to hear that we planned my first at only 21, but its true. I got off the pill and it took only a few months!
Tell me about the birth or infancy stage of your child?
It’s so neat to witness my confidence bloom with each child. The first one I was so scared to even give her the very 1st bath! I had my mom stay with me for a few days so she could teach me the basics. For the birth of the first born daughter, it was in the hospital, I had no idea about midwives and listened to everything I was told to do: Induce labour, epidural, stay for 4 days in the hospital. By the time I had my second daughter I knew about midwives, didn’t need to be induced and delivered naturally. I was able to go home within 4 hours! By the time baby number 4 came out I was a pro! He was born within 3 minutes of the midwives coming into my home. I remember that day so clearly, I was labouring and doing hypnosis for child birth. Walking around in my home and reading positive suggestions. I then felt pressured and called the midwives, they asked me on a scale of 1 to 10 how painful was it, but because of the hypnosis I said “4 but I am in a trance” The midwives came as fast as they could (40 mins) and he was born 3 mins afterwards. I didn’t even have time to blow up the birthing tub.
Was when I was changing my son for the 1st time, I had no idea that I would have to be careful to his aim. He was laying down on the change table and I was changing him. But I wasn’t prepared with the diaper to cover his man part(penis). So he peed all over my top, was like the perfect aim!! Like a water fountain.
What’s something you wish people knew about your son/daughter?
Each of my children are so unique I wish people knew that. We must have separate relationships for each of the children. I have a few that are very artsy, some very science based and intellectual and others into sports. My middle son is allergic to all nuts so that is always a thing I have to think about when ever we are out.
What’s something you wish people knew about you?
That I love inspiring women to step into their greatness and gain confidence.
What was the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? And how are you coping?
Was growing my business at the same time as raising the little ones. I am working only part time because I have to be free to pick them up from school and take them to all their activities. I am coping because I have a supportive husband, and I ask for help anytime I feel like I am running around like a children with no head. LOL I make sure to take time to nurture myself, so I do not become drained. I take self care and self love seriously. I make sure to balance my time, I do not own guilt. When I feel like doing something I do it because I know I deserve it. Eg. GO on a trip to Bali for 10 days ALONE, go get my hair done, go to Starbucks with friends, go to the gym; etc.. You name it, in order to cope with 4 kids and a household WE must take time for US.
What do you love most about being a mom?
I love watching them grow, its so fulfilling to see their personalities and think about their potential futures.
I love hearing them explore their imagination and creative play. WE love painting, making bracelets and making up stories at bed time. I love spending time with them. I love that my kids want me to tuck them in bed every night, say our prayers and cuddle. Yes it feels so nice to have even my oldest one want to relax with me on the sofa and watch some T.V. As a mother to 4 I do my best to give them each quality time. My oldest likes watching Jane the Virgin with me, my middle one likes going to the gym at 6am with me, my 11 yr old likes to play sports and teach me things, and my last one (7) loves to come to my bed at night and cuddle with me. I do not mind at all. We have a King size and I know “he won’t be an adult sleeping here, so might as well take all the cuddles I can get!” lolWho does your tribe consist of? I have a few close friends, my sister’s and hubby. I love surrounding myself with positive women.
What’s something you wish they (your tribe) knew?
That I love them, even though I do not reach out enough.
I am just not a phone person. SO I love texting and making plans for meeting in person. I am just a busy women so the phone makes me feel like its holding me back from doing stuff. The only time i like talking on the phone is if I am folding laundry, thus i feel good I am doing 2 things at once
What lessons and values do you hope to instill in your children?
That everything happens for a reason, there is only lesson’s and blessings in life.
IF they are going through something hard, I say “this too shall pass.” We must stay present to it all, we learn and grow even through pain. Its apart of life. I want to instill confidence in them, as a women who helps others in my community, I see the #1 theme women have difficulty with is confidence and self love. I want to instill that in my children. That they can do anything they put their mind too, that the are unique and to never DIM their LIGHT.
Can we follow you on social media?
Yes please, I am on Instagram Under: Sacred Breakthroughs and my Facebook names are: Sacred Breakthroughs and Rev.Natalie Haig My websites are: www.sacredbreakthroughs.com and www.thegoddessutopia.com I share positive empowerment posts and love supporting women step into their greatness.
Advice for new moms?
My biggest advice is to enjoy the journey, be mindful through it — pause and reflect often. Do not stress the small stuff, the house will get cleaned soon enough! I’d personally rather take them to the park then fold 5 loads of laundry.
I get it done, but I do not stress about it. Its ok if it takes a few days! lol Also take time for you, if you are frustrated and overwhelmed ask for help. No one is a mind reader, even your partner, YOU must voice your thoughts and then you will receive the help you desire. Just today I had too. I had a busy day at work until 2, then i had to pick up all 4 kids (3 different schools). My oldest had an appointment at the Chiropractors at 3pm, my 2 boys (youngests) had dentist appointments at 3:15pm; and then guitar class at 5pm. And then my oldest had another appointment at 6:45pm. So I had to run around, all evening, and swing to Costco for dinner.
Do not pressure yourself, Nachos are a fast and easy meal. When in doubt do Nachos! LOL
ok…. so by the time I got home from Guitar classes with my boys it was almost 6. My husband worked ALL day, and just got home too. I asked him if he could drive my oldest to her appointment at 6:45pm because iwanted to rest and cook. He did without hesitation. Thats what partnership is all about, its not just the women’s job to do things for the kids! And that was exactly what i needed, to shred some cheese, and chill! Never feel bad to ask for help.
Another tip: Buy the book The 5 love languages. And learn your children’s love language, its amazing how much easier it is when you can speak their love language.
Rev. Natalie Haigwww.revnataliehaig.ca