Michelle and I played varsity volleyball both together and against each other back in our college days! Fast forward to today, we both have two kids around the same age, making our reunion a humorous one that involves chasing kids around a restaurant! I’m grateful to have met such an intelligent woman with a good head on her shoulders. She was never scared to say no to the things that didn’t align with her values, something we could all learn from! Cheers to reuniting with old friends and miraculously still being on the same page.Let’s Raise This Mother
Tell me about yourself
My name is Michelle, I am a 31-year-old mother of two. I became a mother two and a half years ago with my son and again 5 months ago with my daughter. I am currently enjoying maternity leave and somehow get so busy I don’t know how i get it all done when I go back to work. The work I do is landscape design in the Windsor area and I love seeing how my work beautify people’s yards.
During my free time (when I can get them) I have too many hobbies to get any of them done. Between sports, crafting, gardening, home improvement and keeping up with family and friends, there just isn’t enough time or energy in one day!
Did you always want kids? If not, when did that change?
I have always wanted to be a mother but never really understood what that would be like. I just knew I wanted a family and I am glad I did because it has wonderful.
Tell me about the birth or infancy stage of your child?
My first child’s delivery (my son) I was headstrong to not have a c-section or drugs. I had my midwife and my doula. I thought I was prepared. Well sometimes things just don’t go the way you planned and I ended up with a c-section and drugs. In fact, my son was in the hospital (NICU) for 5 days. I was not prepared for that and did not have enough clothes for my hospital stay. It was just the start of learning curve of having children.
My second child I got the pleasure of an all-natural delivery. I have always wanted to know what the big deal was with delivering a baby and I wanted to accomplish it.
I am so happy I was able to have a good old all-natural delivery the second time around. It was amazing to do it myself and on top of that hold my baby right after. The way my daughter just knew how to nurse right away was incredible. I knew it happens but for it to happen to me was so cool.
I can’t believe I can’t think of a good story for this question because these kids make me laugh all the time. My daughters smiles and the hilarious things my son says.
But I will tell you the sweetest story about the two kids. It was shortly after my daughter was home and my son didn’t care about her in fact the first time he saw her he said, “a poppy”! because he was so hands off I was able to leave them in a room together alone and not worry about him bothering her. Well one day I was getting dressed upstairs and the baby started crying and I just ignored her so I could quickly get dressed. Then I thought, oh dear maybe he is stepping on her or something. Then the crying stopped as I looked down the stairs to see my son rocking her in her chair.
He did care about her. Oh my heart! Then when I came down, he said “I’m done your turn mom!”
What’s something you wish people knew about you?
I like to think of myself as a really strong woman that can do it all and so I am very bad at accepting help. My husband handles it well but at times I guess I need to learn to accept help – not because I need it, but because it is helpful!
What was the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? And how are you coping?
My time to do all my hobbies – free time – down time. Things that I like to get done in a few hours now take a week or more. Or I need to ask for help and if they don’t do it the way I like I need to accept that its ok because they are helping me!
What do you love most about being a mom? Name 3 things.
1. The laughter – oh they can make you laugh
2. The over flowing love you can give them and they can give you (smothering them with hugs and kiss’)
3. Seeing them learn and discover new things – the joy they get from that, is encouraging.
They say “it takes a village to raise a child” who does your tribe consist of?
My Tribe would consist of my parents, my in-laws, and our siblings. Then my neighbour, a local friend, and our church community. I’m not sure there is something they need to know that they don’t already know. I kind of speak my mind!
What lessons and values do you hope to instill in your child?
1. Be respectful of the earth and of others
2. To enjoy life and slow down enough to smell the flowers.
3. And most important to love the Lord above all else
11. Do you have any advice out there for moms-to-be?
Your children will eat up all your time if they could. But you need to make sure you make time for you and your spouse. If you’re not spending time together to grow together and stay in love with each other, you will not be able to be on the same page while parenting your children, or grow together as a couple.
Put your spouse first then your kids. Make a point of having date nights together. Maybe that means getting season tickets to a theater or sports event or cooking classes so you have to go! It’s so easy to get caught up in the kids and loss track of your marriage.
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom Michelle