Kailey is an sport-loving mom that I admire for many reasons including: 1. Her volleyball prowess! Both as a coach and a player she’s the real deal! And it’s an appreciated challenge to play against her. I’m also impressed by her culinary excellence, and her open and approachable nature, we played on the same volleyball team before meeting, and she was craazy cool about it. That being said, enjoy her generous words of wisdom below!
Cheers Mama Kailey! You’re an incredible woman.LET’S RAISE THIS MOTHER!
Tell me about yourself
My name is Kailey, I am a sporty, outgoing, fun, goofy, loving mom to a very busy and fun 4 year old boy named Lincoln. I also have a stepdaughter who is 21, I became a stepmother about 7 years ago, and became a mother to my son 4 years ago in May.
Have you always wanted kids?
I always wanted a family, I didn’t always know when or how.
I was interested in adoption, or fostering, as well as having my own child. I was sort of open to anything. I never really felt pressure of a timeline, but when it happened, my husband and I felt we were in a good place and prepared to have a baby.
Share your birth sorry (snapshot version).
Labour… It sounds arrogant to say that I found it easy, but I did.
I had heard horror stories, and friends had had difficult births, so I was prepared for it to be much worse than it was. I did get the epidural, so cheating a bit, but to each their own. I also took steps to help prepare my body for the birth of our son, I don’t know if they actually helped, but even if it was just placebo effect, I was fine with that. My doctor was amazing, and really helped make the day and night of labour go so smoothly. I was also told that being an athlete helped prepare me, I only had to push for about 30 minutes, which I’m told is very quick. My son tried to roll over on the table while being cleaned, which I also did as a baby, so we joke that he is a natural-born athlete as well.
I have so many funny stories, I honestly never knew how funny it was to be a parent until I was one.
As a baby the funniest is probably when he was around 15 months old. My husband got up in the morning with Lincoln, and I was enjoying some extra rest in bed, but alas, that is apparently not allowed, I hear yelling, “noooo! Nooo nooo nooo! kailey!! Kailey, come here now!” Of course my mind goes to the worst place possible, I jump out of bed and sprint to Lincoln’s room. What do I see, POOP! EVERYWHERE! Lincoln has learned to take off his uncomfortable poopy diaper, and thought he would paint us a masterpiece, using his crib and wall as his canvas. Our son was just starting to take a taste of his poopy paint, when my husband walked in. Now I understood what all of the yelling was about. Lincoln was covered head to toe in poop, and wore a huge smile across his smeared face. One of us tackled the room and the other gave a triple bath to a giggling boy. Lesson learned, silence when there is a child home is NEVER a good thing.
What’s something that you wish people knew about your son?
There isn’t much people don’t know about my son.
If they don’t know he will quickly tell them. He is the chattiest little 4 year old. Recently he made friends with the installer from our internet company, who learned Lincoln’s life story while testing our signal. He and I are both open books, we have no secrets, we don’t have anything to hide, we laugh at our mistakes and embrace and accept our flaws.
What’s something that you wish people knew about you?
I am an open book most people know a lot about me. Like my son, I am also chatty. Maybe one thing people don’t know is that I never feel good enough. I don’t feel like I am a very good mother or wife, but I do try to be. I have to constantly remind myself to not compare myself to other mothers or wives, and to just try to do my best and work on me. I don’t know if that really answers the question, but I guess I think I can have arrogant/ confident moments and I don’t want people to think that I think I’m the best, especially when it comes to being a mom. I have a lot of improvements to make but I will never stop trying.
What’s the biggest sacrifice of motherhood for you?
It sounds vain, but I can’t say I’ve sacrificed much else since my social life and career are better now than before I was a mom.
The biggest sacrifice for me was my appearance. I don’t have the time to do my hair and make up, my son is exhausting and I constantly have big bags under my eyes. I rarely go to get my hair done or nails done or anything that I use to do. My body which use to be toned and tight is not so much anymore. I am working on it, and taking the steps I need to, and prioritizing times when I do need to put myself first, but I find it hard to not feel guilty. I am making self improvements and happy with my progress, but I know I have a long way to go. I am just super lucky to have an amazing support system around me to help me out.
What do you love most about being a mom?
What I love most about being a mom is seeing my son happy, and hearing him laugh and knowing that I put a smile on his face. Also I love seeing my son’s relationships build with the people that I love! Lastly I love seeing him grow and learn, and knowing that I can teach him and help him grow to be a wonderful person.
Who is in your tribe?
I have the best tribe!
I have an amazing supportive family, my parents play a huge role in Lincoln’s life, from babysitting him many times a week, to taking him on adventures in the wilderness, to helping him learn how to read and write, arts and crafts, the list goes on and on. I am so grateful for everything that they do, and I am so glad that Lincoln will have these memories throughout his life. My sister is very supportive, as well as my sister-in-law, who love Lincoln to death, and spoil him rotten! Even my aunts and uncles have been a big role in my sons life. The second tribe that we have is my friends, I have an amazing group of friends who have come into my life and they have all embraced Lincoln. It melts my heart to see him run and jump into their arms. There is never a gathering he isn’t invited to, from 30th bday parties to adventures hiking, he is never left out. I never fear if they are around that if I take my eyes away from him, there’s another 10 sets of eyes watching him. It’s truly amazing! (And now I’m crying, haha).
What’s something that you wish your Tribe knew?
I think my tribe knows because they only see me emotional when I talk about their relationship with my Linc. If they don’t know I want them to know how insanely grateful I am for every single moment they have spent with him, and for not doing it because they felt they had to but because they wanted to. I have never been left out of plans or invitations because I have a child; it’s understood when I opt out to stay home with him, and encouraged when I come out and bring him with me. Even if it means everyone has to listen to the Ghostbusters song on the loudspeakers in the middle of November, my friends turn it into a dance party and cheer on the toddler. As far as my family I think I tell them a lot, but saying thank you every day wouldn’t be enough to express how grateful I am for all the support and all of the memories they have given Lincoln. They are so major in his life and mine, I have no clue what my husband and I would do without them.
What’s something that you hope to instill in your child?
There is one thing that matters most to me, I want my son to be kind.
I want him to be generous and caring, and be the type of friend everyone wants to have. There is too much hate in the world and I say the same thing to him that my father says to me, “we do not hate, that word doesn’t exist to us, we can strongly dislike something, but hate is not it our vocabulary.” Showing people love is so much more important than anything else!
May we follow you on social media?
Yes you can follow me! I share a lot of stories about being a mom, usually funny things my son says. I also share some inspirational “you go girl” kind of mom stuff. My advice for new moms would be; do you! You do what is best for you and works for you, everyone will have opinions on how you should raise your child, but they don’t have to live with the little monster, so do what works best for you and your family!Kailey : Social Media Link