Jennifer is a book-loving Canadian mom, so clearly we were made to be friends. She’s also an entrepreneur that sells Usborne children’s books both online and at different events. Her interview shares her story of her dance with depression and how she overcame that. She’s also a mom of twin boys! So you can only imagine she had a few stories to tell! Jennifer thank you so much for participating mama, this means the world, you mean the world.Let’s Raise This Mother
Tell me about yourself
I am a wife, a mom and a buisness owner. I met my husband back in highschool and we started dating when I was 15.
Never would have guessed how lucky I would be 19 years later. I am a mama of 3 year-old twin boys and a 10 year old fur baby.
Becoming a mom was not an easy journey for me.
With multpile miscarriages and struggles conceiving i never thought i would ever have the chance to carry my own children. At 31 years old my dream came true and I finally became a mom to two beautiful boys.
Where do you work?
When my boys were 10 months-old I decided to become a consultant with Usborne Books at home. I have always loved books. I was that scholastic kid who freaked out when the bookfair came to school. I wanted my kids to have a huge library.
Here I am now almost 3 years later running this little book business and supporting a huge team underneath me which has allowed me to stay home with my kids.
Promoting literacy is amazing and watching my kids fall more in love with books everyday makes me so excited for their future.
When I’m not in mommy mode I love playing my piano, I’ve been playing since I was 3. (working on this again) and reading or colouring.
Calming my mind daily is incredibly important to my mental helath.
Did you always want kids? If not, when did that change?
Once I started dating my now husband I knew kids were in our future.
We had names ready when I was 17 years-old.
So yesI was certain i wanted children.
Tell me about the birth or infancy stage of your twins
When I found out that I was having twins at my 6-week ultrasound, I was obligated to schedueld a c-section immediately due to lower back issues, past miscarriages, and with it being twins.
A c-section was the safest way for us to go.
I was scheduled for 38 weeks and carried them to the day. I was put on bedrest at 23 weeks and did my part to keep those boys safe and growing. It worked thankfully.
The newborn stage was rough.
With one baby it is already hard but with two…. it was a huge challenge. I have no idea how triplet mommies do it. I made the decision to exclusivley nurse my boys which meant I did ALL the feedings. It was really tough in the beginning as I was always either nursing or pumping. Litteraly that is all I did for a month. But we went 2.5 years and the boys weaned themselves the same day. I could not have asked for it any other way.
This is a hard one. There really are too many.
Once the boys started acknowledging each other life became even more amazing. If I had to pick one, there was a time when the 3 of us laughed for a good 30-minutes about one of them having a poopy diaper. HAHA yes I know poop. It was one of the first times the boys found something so funny which in turn made it funny for me. they must have been around 9 months old or so. The giggles were amazing.
What’s something you wish people knew about your boys?
Even though my twins are fraternal and don’t look nor act anything alike,
people tend to forget that they are 2 different people.
They feel different about things and respond differently. Some people just assume them to be a certain way based on the others reactions or actions to things.
What’s something you wish people knew about you?
I wish people knew or remembered that I do suffer from anxiety and depression.
Life at home with twins alone majority of the time is really hard. I suffered from severe depression for 2 years prior to becoming a mom. There are times where i can easily crawl back in a hole but have to work really hard to not let myself get there. My anxiety has worsened since becoming a mom and having twins has made it harder. My anxiety is a big reason we are home bound a lot. I have 2 runners.
Two against one is hard. Many people don’t see that.
What was the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? And how are you coping?
Everything. I am not the person I was before motherhood. Prior to becoming pregnant I’ve already given so much of myself. I lost 2 babies and lived at a fertility clinc. Daily appointments before work, taking meds that made me feel sick for months at a time and then giving my body to my boys to grow and then to eat. None of my freinds had twins so I felt like I had no one to relate to. My kids took every minute of my time once they were here. I quit my job to stay home , and any time that I used to have to myself vanished. The thing is, I would not give it up for anything. The early years were hard and we still are dealing with hard times however things are amazing.
Being a mom to these boys is why I am here.
It is my purpose in life and my life has never been better. I LOVE being a mother.
What do you love most about being a mom? Name 3 things.
1. Loving them with my whole heart and having them love me so much. You really cant expiernce a love like this until you are a mom.
2. Wathcing them grow and learn is incredible. I smile so much
3. Being a kid myself. Things I haven’t done since I was little and now I get to enjoy it with my boys
They say it takes a village to raise them, who does your tribe consist of?
My husband and our families. They have been great help to us since the kids were born and continue to be here for us when we need.
What’s your favorite book and why?
I actually do not have a favorite. I love reading crime thrillers and sci fi books. the odd romance book is a good change of pace.
What does self-care look like to you?
Self-care what’s that? Haha!
I don’t give myself much time for self care but i have been getting better. Massages, piano, reading, colouring and making time for coffee dates. Honestly these things are so helpful in my life.
What lessons and values do you hope to instill in your children?
Be kind to everyone. we do not know everyones story and should never judge anyone. Be thoughtful and generous to those around you.
What’s the best advice you’ve received about motherhood so far?
the housework can wait.
What advice do you have for new moms?
Breathe. You are going to be a great mom.
This is the best journey of your life. Enjoy every minute. Do what works for you. Reach out when you need help or someone to talk to. Dont be afraid to cry as some days that is exactly what you need. take lots of pictures and videos as they grow up fast. Dont forget to be in them too. Who cares if your hair is in the same bun for 4 days and you look exaughsted. trust me, you want to be in those pics. You are amazing!
Can we follow you on social media?
You can add me on Instagram