Tell me about yourself
I’m an energetic, enthusiastic and unapologetic bookworm with an insatiable thirst for knowledge.
I’m often described as being “too much” but I’ll always be too much for those that aren’t meant for me. I’m thankful when people tell me that, it makes it clear that I can liberate myself from their judging eyes guilt-free.
I’m on a healing journey in search for meaning, enlightenment, wisdom, good recipes a good laugh and some hot and steamy page-turners.
Have you always wanted children? If not, when did that change?
No I haven’t always wanted children because the idea of childbirth seemed impossible. That changed when I realized how interesting, hilarious and insightful children could be. Working with kids as a teenager was the best thing that ever happened to me. Watching my neighborhood kids grow up was fascinating. Every one of their accomplishments made me feel like a proud contributor. I’m still friends with many of those wonderful kids, so yes, kids are the best and I was so excited to have my own.
Share Your birth story
I’ve shared my birth story already in the about me section of this page. Summary is this: natural birth isn’t “brave” or “crazy” it’s natural; and so is our strength as women. It was intense, it was triumphant and my husband caught both babies and I’ve never felt closer to him since.
I speak French to my kids at home, and I’ve always had a feeling he thought it was our special language.
I remember the way his eyes nearly popped out of their sockets
when someone else (outside of my immediate family) greeted him in French. It was beautiful.
What’s something you wish people knew about your kids?
They are half-black (Congolese) and half-white (German-Dutch) but
it seems the only qualities that get complimented most are those he gets from his white father.
I don’t think it’s intentional, but people don’t realize how often my eldest who has tightly-coiled hair hears “I wonder if his hair will stay nice like that or turn curlier like his” about his baby brother. Or “too bad he didn’t get his dads blue eyes”. I don’t think people have ill-intent, I just don’t think they realize that it’s becoming a trending comment in his life. There is nothing wrong with dark eyes and afro hair no matter how fuzzy and unruly, it’s all beautiful.
What’s something that you wish people knew about you?
Despite the fact that smiling is my default-setting, I struggle with my mental-health often.
People tend to think I’m perfect, or always happy but that’s not true at all. We all have our stories, we all have our flaws and we are all battling countless battles be it obvious or not.
What’s the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you?
The biggest sacrifice of motherhood to me has been my precious sleep.
Despite the fact that my kids are generally good sleepers, the hormonal changes of pregnancy, breastfeeding and all that Jazz has greatly affected my sleep. I’ve never struggled with sleep before this and it’s exhausting.
Name 3 things you love most about being a mom?
1 – The endless warm snuggles and kisses. 2 – The giggling and playfulness makes my inner-child so happy! 3 – Rediscovering everything including childhood favorite toys, movies, activities and basically
Rediscovering the magic of the world through my child’s glittering eyes.
Who does your tribe consist of, and what’s something that you wish they knew?
My kids are fortunate enough to have very involved and generous grandparents.
I wish they knew how much our kids harass us to drop them off at their place on days that we don’t. They love them so much and it’s beautiful
I also wish they knew how much I appreciate their extra help lately especially. I’ve been struggling a lot mentally lately and they’ve been very generous, I see that and appreciate it with all my heart.
What lessons and values do you wish to instill in your children?
I hope they learn to be kind and considerate, even if that makes them an outcast in some places.
I also wish that they acknowledge their strengths and use them for good, not evil.
Best motherhood advice you’ve received thus far?
Write down EVERYTHING, if they say something funny write it down.Robin Overmeyer
Favorite book and why?
Favorite fiction: We are all completely besides ourselves by Karen J Fowler. It was a powerful read for me and helped me heal by letting go of a lot of family-related angst, obligation and awkwardness I carried with me everywhere I went.
My favorite non-fiction book is “How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids” by Jancee DunnOne of the first books I’ve featured on the blog
Wisdom for other moms?
Don’t do that thing where you idealize other people’s lives. Like “so and so has it easier” we are all muddling through, sometimes it’s messy and that’s fine! You’re doing fine! There’s nothing wrong with you and you’re not messing up your kids. Oh also… more self-compassion and self-forgiveness please! You give so much, remember to be generous and kind with yourself too.
Can we follow you on social media?
Please do! My Social Media of choice is Instagram my handle is : @Fitnerdymom.dotcom
I’m a part of an ever-growing and ever-supportive book-lover community and it’s beautiful.