Amber is a fellow fitness enthusiast that I’ve come to know and love from a a close mutual friend. Her positivity, authenticity and love of food and fitness made me like her EVEN MORE. I remember being absolutely blown away by her step count since we were friends on fitbit! She always blew me away by about 18 thousand steps daily! Even new moms have a lot of wisdom to share, take a look for yourself in her interview below!Let’s Raise This Mother!
Tell me about yourself
My names Amber Suba, I’m a Kindergarten educator, and absolutely in love working with children. I love being active; I enjoy weight lifting and taking long walks. I’m also a huge foodie; I enjoy indulging in donuts, croissants & burgers.
I’m a very new mama, my baby bear is only 6 weeks old.
Did you always want kids? If not, when did that change?
I didn’t actually. Growing up I was convinced I’d never have kids, or I’d adopt them instead.
But getting into my profession changed my outlook on children, and whether I wanted to have that kind of life. Becoming a Mama was the best thing in the world, I still feel I’ll only have just one child; I struggled initially with the idea of being a Mama. I was so scared of not being the perfect one; I know now there’s no perfect Mama. We’ll make mistakes, we’ll trip and fall, but as long as we lead with love, we’ll never fail.
Tell me about the birth or infancy stage of your child?
I was terrified.
I had no experience with infants at all. When do you feed? How much do you feed? How often do you change them? Etc. Etc. And that internal struggle didn’t change when he arrived either. Being a new Mama for me came with a lot of self doubt and overthinking; I almost needed permission to make decisions for Vic. But I had a friend tell me to follow my intuition, that I’m the best thing for him, and I know what he needs ultimately. That conversation changed my perspective, I began to feel more confident, more comfortable, and took those new Mama risks.
My husband changing his first poop-splosion.
That Baby boy had distance; while changing he managed to cover 5 diapers, his stuffy, clean clothes, his change pad & table, and the floor. He’s still yet to beat it.
What’s something you wish people knew about your son/daughter?
Just how insanely loved he is by both his father and me. How excited we are to see how brave, kind, intelligent, and well rounded he will soon become.
What’s something you wish people knew about you?
How much I struggle with letting go and living life spontaneously. I am so used to routine and structure. Being a Mama tests this everyday.
What was the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? And how are you coping?
My daily schedule. I still follow a routine now, just not on a schedule anymore. I may eat the same things everyday, do some of the same things everyday, but they don’t happen at the same times anymore. I’m learning to embrace this change.
What do you love most about being a mom? Name 3 things.
1 – Giving my everything to someone other than myself; and watching him change and develop new skills everyday
2 – Watching my husband become the amazing father he is, and how strong our partnership has become
3 – Connecting with a community of people who want nothing but the best for myself, my husband, and Vic
Who does your tribe consist of?
Most days it’s me, my husband, and Vic; as all our family lives out of town. We do have our immediate families who visit and want to be apart of Vics life as well. I also have an amazing handful of women who I connect with through social media messaging.
What’s something you wish they (your tribe) knew?
I wish they knew how simple comments about how you’re parenting or should be parenting, will stick and stay with you. Especially if you’re an over thinker like myself. Be kind with your words always. And don’t forget new mama’s are learning daily too.
What’s your favorite book and why?
I have a collection of over thousands of children’s books in my library.
I love many of them. But the one I read to Vic at night while pregnant will have to be my favourite. Baby bear, baby bear by Eric Carle
What lessons and values do you hope to instill in your child?
Ultimately we want to instill the importance of kindness to your fellow man.
We want Vic to be the one who stands up to injustice, who can speak his mind with tact, and who can draw people who feel rejected in. We want to raise a critical thinker; who’s independent, has a thirst for knowledge, and is a hard worker; willing to roll up his sleeves and get things done himself.
What’s the best advice you’ve received about motherhood so far?
Follow your heart. And that you can never love your baby too much. Time together is precious, don’t waste it.
What advice do you have for new moms?
You don’t, won’t, and can’t know it all, so get better at something each day. Don’t rush or get frustrated when things aren’t perfect the first day/night. Building a house doesn’t happen overnight, and neither will adapting to motherhood.
Can we follow you on social media?
Please do! Social media is such a great outlet and a great way to find like minded people to enjoy life with. IG: @amberraeseyes