Alexa is the kind of beautiful you can feel immediately because it radiates from her in abundance. Her gentle presence is one that is calming to me, she truly is a breath of fresh air of a human being. I’m grateful to have someone as wise as her featured on this blog. She’s an adventurous mama with a wonderful IG feed full of practical tips for parents travelling with babies among so much more @budgetbeachbum. Thank you AlexaLet’s raise this mother!
Tell me about yourself
I am married to the most wonderful blessing of a husband. We will have been married 10 years this June. I am a sales person in a technical role; saleswomen in this industry is quite rare but I really enjoy it. Both my husband and I grew up in Niagara area, and still currently live in the region. We love to travel and dream of moving somewhere someday. We had our first child in 2017 and welcomed our second daughter this June 2019.
Have you always wanted kids? If not, when did that change?
No, I couldn’t relate or connect with them and I couldn’t imagine myself being a “mom”. It changed as I matured and had more exposure to children like my nieces and nephews. It especially changed seeing how good my husband was with them too.
Tell me about the birth or infancy stage of your child.
The birth of my first child was intimidating leading up to it, not knowing what to expect, and especially once contractions began. However once I had the epidural, I was in comfortable lala land, able to wait in peace and happiness for my little girl to arrive. Fourth trimester is very real and the entire first year was difficult – stranger anxiety made it hard to leave the house, more Dr visits than I ever expected, and a very hungry babe who didn’t sleep through the night until past 12 months! However, we were able to breastfeed until she was 21 months and I wouldn’t change a thing.
Of the birth? Pushing and spraying the midwives with pee I didn’t know was coming (thanks epidural!).
Of having a newborn? When she explosive pooped out of her diaper, up her back, onto my leg and down onto our bed. That’ll teach me to have a newborn in only a diaper!
What’s something you wish people knew about your daughter?
She gives the best hugs and kisses. She just needs time to warm up!
What’s something you wish people knew about you?
I believe I have a bit of social anxiety when it comes to events with large groups, and especially public speaking. If I can’t avoid it, I will power through it as best as I can.
What was the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? And how are you coping?
Everything I “thought” I was giving up going from being a DINK (Dual income no kids) to a parent, has gone to the wayside. My priorities have changed completely, my view on life totally reformed. Things that seemed important before don’t really matter anymore. That being said, maybe I do miss a good nights sleep.Alexa
What do you love most about being a mom? Name 3 things.
- Being the one who can solve her problems with a hug and a kiss
- Getting the best hugs and kisses
- Incomparable happiness of watching this child grow and learn
They say it takes a village to raise them, who does your tribe consist of?
My husband is my tribe! We enjoy spending time with just each other and we will do that quite often. He can take over full-time parenting while I am travelling for work with ease, and gives our daughters an amazing person to look up to. I wish he knew how truly thankful I am for him, because I may not always express my feelings when I am tired/exhausted/sad/etc.
What values do you hope to instill in your child?
Faith in God, love for family, honesty and integrity.
Can we follow you on social media?
Yes! I run an Instagram with tips for parents travelling with babies – @budgetbeachbum. We have always been asked how we can afford to travel so many places, and the questions continued when we still were able to travel with a child. I try to share whatever tips and tricks that I can on how we travel.
I also have a small business that I run, making adjustable headbands and bow ties – @preciousdovedesigns. My daughter grew out of her headbands so quickly at 3 months old, they began to dent her head. I wanted to make sure she was comfortable (because bows are necessary of course!), so I started making my own and then began to sell them because I had so many friends and family interested. It has grown so well and I am so thankful for the support in my local community!
Best advice for new moms?
My best advice to a new mom is really truly “this too will pass”. It sometimes feels like “how could I possibly handle another curveball, leap, sleep regression, growth spurt, what have you?” it does get better over time! It’s hard to hear and even harder to believe – but trust me, I’m going through it with our second daughter!