Overcoming Toxic Parenting: How to Be a Good Parent When Yours Wasn’t
Rick Johnson is a best-selling Christian author and speaker that focuses on parenting, marriage, fathering, personal growth, character development, and masculinity. He’s also a counselor and father that has dedicated his life to helping other people.
Who’s it written for?
This book is written for everyone. We can al be better parents to some capacity. We are so greatly affected by the way we’ve been raised that an auto-evaluation could benefit us all and help ensure our children get the best of the best.
The more unhealthy a family, the more damage done to the children. And that damage affects our adulthood”Overcoming Toxic Parenting – Rick Johnson
What it’s about?
Overcoming Toxic Parenting is about just that. It’s an insightful observation on effects of ‘toxic parenting’ which describes a parenting style based on fear, pain and suffering. He describes all sorts of abuse, where it stems from and how to overcome it to become better parents.
1. If you were a victim of your childhood there is nothing wrong with you.
2. You are not doomed to repeat your parents transgressions, especially if you seek help.
3. Just because you want to parent better than your parents did, doesn’t mean you t love your parents.
Overcoming Toxic Parenting is factual, though the content may be hard to read at times, as it addresses heavy topics such as verbal, the psychological, emotional and sexual abuse of children, it does so in a way that doesn’t overly linger on the atrocities. It’s factual, to the point and focuses on solutions to issues, not the problems.
We were all raised in dysfunctional families. Some were more healthy than others, and some were more destructive than others, but because we are all sinners, all were dysfunctional.Overcoming Toxic Parenting – Rick Johnson
Overcoming Toxic Parenting is definitely a Christian book, and I realize these kind of books aren’t for everyone. Though I find this book rather light on the Bible verses and talks about God, it’s still there, and that may not resonate with everyone.
Cop it or drop it?
Cop it. Overcoming toxic parenting is a book everyone could benefit from. Whether we like it or not, abuse often happens in cycles, and breaking the cycle has a lot to do with the introspection this book helps facilitate.
The 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐤! 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘖𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘛𝘰𝘹𝘪𝘤 𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘺 𝘙𝘪𝘤𝘬 𝘑𝘰𝘩𝘯𝘴𝘰𝘯
𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧’𝐭?
𝘓𝘰𝘰𝘬, 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐛𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 our 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞!
𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝘸𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴.
𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 “𝐛𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫” than them 𝐢𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 simply because of the way that our brains work.
𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐞, when we’re well adjusted, we have full control of ourselves and 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘳𝘺 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵.
𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 comes with 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐩-𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐓𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐃𝐄𝐅𝐈𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐄!
You might surprise yourself. I know I did.
My go-to reaction under stress was 𝘺𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨.
𝘐 𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘪𝘵, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘥’𝘴 𝘦𝘺𝘦𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘮𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘦.
𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐨𝐤𝐚𝐲. 𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯, but I was raised partially 𝘣𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘐’𝘷𝘦 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘯.
Echoes of getting yelled at as a kid 𝘪𝘯 𝘥𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘺 in my mind until one day 𝐁𝐀𝐌! 𝐀𝐧 𝐮𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧.
𝐒𝐨 𝐈 𝐩𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐮𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐛𝐲 𝐦𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐭.
𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘏𝘈𝘙𝘋. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞’𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤, and all of this 𝘢𝘸𝘬𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 and 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵. #doingthework was worth it!