Tiffany is a hilarious, intelligent homeschooling mother that I’ve come to admire along the years. It’s not everyday that you meet someone that can say that they homeschool their gifted child, so dive in and enjoy her interview!See her social media details below
Tell me about yourself
Hi! I’m Tiffany. I’m a homeschooling mom so my hobbies include just trying to stay awake. Kidding. Kind of. I love to read, write, knit and I have a long term goal of living off grid in the woods with sheep (my husband is 100% not on board though so we’ll see how that works out). I’ve been involved with dance and acting almost my whole life and it’s led me to some really weird jobs and experiences. I had my son when I was 25 and I haven’t slept since!
Did you always want kids? If not, when did that change?
NO! When I was a teen I was very adamant that the world was a horrible place and with climate change and all, I thought it was totally irresponsible. Then I graduated to maybe I’d like one if I had a nanny to take care of it. And then one day I was basically like, I need a baby and I need one today. It turns out I’m actually one of those overachieving moms who occasionally does Pinterest stuff with her kid. Go figure. I love it.
Tell me about the birth or infancy stage of your child
I couldn’t feel my contractions! The nurses were laughing at me. But then somewhere around hour 28? 30? the pitocin kicked in and then I really, really felt them. So that was fun. It was 36 hours total, but I shouldn’t complain about the first day or so.
Infancy was wild. My kid was super alert and never slept and I was so exhausted but also drunk on new mom hormones. I remember the first time I met up with another new mom and it was life changing. You also haven’t showered this week?! If I was to give a new mom advice (Can I do that? Is that okay?) it’d be to find a mom friend that gets it.
Once when my son was a toddler he crawled down to the basement on his own. I didn’t think anything of it because he was back upstairs making “brrrrroooom” noises like a car two seconds later. I thought he was playing with one of his toys. It turned out he had grabbed the cat litter scoop and was spreading cat feces all over my house! Talk about mom fail!
What’s something you wish people knew about your son?
My son is profoundly gifted, which basically means he’s a super asynchronous learner and his IQ is in the top 99.9th percentile. A lot of people think he’s “smart” because I’ve made him that way, but it’s 100% him and the way his brain works. Like all kids, learning for him is like eating or breathing, he just needs a whole lot more of it and at a quicker pace.
What’s something you wish people knew about you?
That I’m a nervous wreck who 100% does not have her life together. I don’t know why, but I get a lot of comments from people that I seem to know what I’m doing. I mean, I’m kind of relieved I give off that impression but I feel like I need to fess up! None of us know what we’re doing! We’re just faking it till we make it! I make a lot of jokes on the internet about parenting because I struggle with feelings of inadequacy. I really want to be a good mom and humour takes the pressure off, which I think is something we can all relate to.
What was the biggest sacrifice of motherhood to you? And how are you coping?
Choosing to stay home to homeschool my son. It was totally unplanned. I went back to work teaching dance when he was 10 months old because I really needed to get out of the house for a few hours a week and do something I loved, so giving up the opportunity to work was difficult. I cope by dedicating time for my writing. This year I started calling it my work, and just that vocabulary change has really helped me see that I can do something valuable for myself, even if I’m not getting paid (yet).
What do you love most about being a mom? Name 3 things.
OMG the snuggles! Snuggles are huge for me. I love having an excuse to do kid things like play at the park and playing games. And it sounds lame, but I really love how much I genuinely like my kid. It’s super cool knowing that I created him (muahaha).
Who does your tribe consist of? (b) What’s something you wish they (your tribe) knew?
I have my IRL tribe which consists of my bffs and family members—the ones I can text a rant to and know they won’t judge or bring me groceries when I’m sick. They are my lifesavers and I love them so much. And I also have my online tribe: fellow parents of PG kids and creator friends. I wish they all knew that I am still overthinking that weird thing I said to them, I didn’t mean it that way.
What lessons and values do you hope to instil in your child?
Try your best, be kind, and have fun. Life’s too short to not have fun.
Can we follow you on social media? Why?
Please! My handle on facebook/twitter/instagram is @lifeattiffanys and I primarily share parenting memes and jokes to help myself get through the day. Definitely follow if you want a laugh. You can find my blog at lifeattiffanysblog.wordpress.com where I share about our homeschooling and giftedness and sometimes just general parenting and life stuff. Come out and say hi! Thanks for having me!
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