𝐉𝐞𝐮𝐝𝐢’𝐬 are for #jedimomtricks 🤓 𝘔𝘺 𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘺 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘰𝘮 𝘩𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘴! #bookish .
Parenting is one of the most popular areas of self-help for a reason!
You can get away with passive aggressiveness in your teens, and even well into your adult life… but even you do it around kids, it takes a negative toll.
Child psychologists, psychiatrists and teachers can all agree on one thing:
Children absorb everything.
If something is going on between your spouse and you, you’re not doing anyone any favors by avoiding it.
The elephant is in the room, name it, address it. It’s the only way to turn it back into a dust bunny or even better, make it disappear altogether.
Your kids need to to learn healthy ways to deal with conflict.
Try not to berate, insult or scream… show your kids that meltdowns aren’t the only way to vocalize displeasure.
Admit you were wrong. (If that’s the case)
Admit you acted harshly. (if that’s the case)
Apologize to everyone in the family because they were all affected.
Every time someone apologizes to you, you should also apologize back.
There’s a reason for everything after all.
It’s uncomfortable but it’s worth the discomfort.
The more you do this, the more natural it will feel.
Your home should be a safe-place. Check passive aggressiveness, insults and sarcasm at the door.
& Teach your kids how to do the same.
Where you and the kids can be real, where you can be wrong and most importantly where you can be forgiven.
That’s what love is, constant forgiveness and acceptance of both the perfections and imperfections.
Trust me, I get it, it’s HARD! I’m a fan of the “silent treatment”. I’ve had to learn the hard way to choose a healthier coping mechanism that wouldn’t harm the kids, and hubby.
You can change.
Make your job easier, give it a go. The book of the week will help you with the “how” part.
𝐰𝐰𝐰.𝐅𝐢𝐭𝐍𝐞𝐫𝐝𝐲𝐌𝐨𝐦.𝐜𝐨𝐦 #𝘓𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘐𝘯𝘉𝘪𝘰 😁