Rachel Hollis is the motivational speaker and writer that every woman should consider reading. In her second NY times Bestselling book, she offers a shame-free plan for embracing and achieving goals and dreams. Here are 5 notable quotes, and mini-lessons from her latest book Girl, Stop Apologizing.
Like many other women, I’m still in the process of overcoming a lifetime of people-pleasingGirl, Stop Apologizing – Rachel Hollis
1 – Mom Guilt is bullshit.
Rachel Hollis doesn’t swear much in Girl Stop Apologizing, but she felt it was necessary to keep this one in the book. Too Many Women Put Themselves Last, and when they do muster up the will to do something for themselves, they are ridden with so much guilt it’s hard to enjoy themselves. But since when is it an ultimatum? Since when does choosing to do something for yourself, a proverbial “Forget you guys” to the kids? She calls bullshit!
What if every single woman in the world replaced everybody’s expectations with their own imagination of who they might be?Girl, Stop Apologizing – Rachel Hollis
2 – Sexism is REAL
Because men are parents too, and a hard working male entrepreneur doesn’t get as much flack as a hard working female entrepreneur with kids. This isn’t fair to dads, and it’s not fair to moms either. You can do things for yourself, in fact you need to, because you can’t pour from an empty cup.
To a child, attention equals love… Childhood habits that go unaltered turn into our unconscious ways of being.Girl, Stop Apologizing – Rachel Hollis
3 – How we’re raise our girls.
Girl, Stop Apologizing digs deep and attempts to explain that the root cause of our current behaviours and habits have an origin story. It’s not a strange coincidence that she’s able to meet women from all walks of life and all levels of success continue to talk down their accomplishments with the fear of being seen a certain way, ie. too intimidating. Sexism exists in parenting too, boys and girls should both recieve merit and recognition for being ambitious, independant and innovative. Let’s challenger our language, strong girls aren’t “bossy” they’re strong. Athletic girls aren’t “tomboys” they’re athletes. We can be better to the future generation. We know better.
Have you ever considered how much of your current life is truly made of your choices, and which areas are really just things that were expected of you?Girl, Stop Apologizing – Rachel Hollis
4 – What defines a “good woman” isn’t fair to women.
Society has contributed greatly to the impossible expectations that women place on themselves. A good mom, thinks of their childrens happiness before her own. A good wife, thinks of her husband before herself. What about a good daughter? A good sister? When do women get to put themselves first? She speaks about the irony of the flight attendants instructing passengers that the emergency oxigen masks need to go on the parent first, and the child second. Contrary to popular belief, a woman that puts herself last is doing both herself and everyone around her a major disservice. Leading by example will empower those around her to do the same. Let’s show our families what strength, drive and determination looks like.
You choose to be this person whether you realize it or not. You choose to believe what you believe and accept what you acevpt and these behaviors can either help you immensely or harm you without you ever really knowing it.Girl, Stop Apologizing – Rachel Hollis
5 – You are the only one that can change your life.
As motivating as Girl, Wash your Face may be, Rachel Hollis delivers on her promise for providing readers with their shame-free plan for achieving their goals. The execution of the plan is completely up to us. The details of the plan involve, creating focus for your goals, waking up one hour earlier than your kids (minimum) getting in shape (to increase mental clarity and wellbeing among much more) and developing discipline by committing yourself to drinking half your weight in ounces of water a day, and by giving up 1 item of junk food for 30 days. It isn’t about dieting, it’s about proving to yourself that you can stick to your word. She refers to discipline as a muscle that needs to be worked out and strengthened. The more you exercise discipline with yourself, the more you’ll be able to.
And there you have it! 5 quick lessons from the fantastic book of the week, Girl, Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis.